“Yoga is the perfect opportunity to be curious about who you are”–Jason Crandell
“True yoga is not about the shape of your body, but the shape of your life. Yoga is not to be performed; yoga is to be lived. Yoga doesn’t care about what you have been; yoga cares about the person you are becoming. Yoga is designed for a vast and profound purpose, and for it to be truly called yoga, its essence must be embodied.” Aadil Palkhivala, Fire of Love
“You deserve a lover who takes away the lies and brings you hope, coffee, and poetry.” — Frida Kahlo
I love coffee as much as (or maybe more than) I love men. I was a late bloomer, I didn’t start drinking it until my mid-twenties. But when I did, Oh Boy!
“There is no remedy for love but to love more.” -Henry David Thoreau
A talented writer and well-known philosopher, Thoreau was most likely talking about coffee when he discussed “loving” in excess. Those who drink cup after cup of coffee are all too familiar with the elated feeling they get from drowning their mornings in the coffee induced productivity,
In high school, I was a milk fanatic. I drank milk until when I was 24ish. I would gulp down liters of Milk and it helped me sleep well. It also helped(!?!) me gain weight but I wasn’t complaining. Then I was. Then in my twenties, thanks to those all-nighters I found coffee.
Coffee, the elixir of life, is the most popular natural antidepressant there is. The beverage of choice for hopeless romantics(read me). I can’t function, nor wish to function, without it. So I researched what are coffee lovers called and came up with some interesting terms:
The person who loves coffee is known as Amante de cafe i.e.lover made of coffee. Similarly, a Javaphile is a person who loves to drink coffee
Since a lot can happen over a coffee, studying people’s coffee behavior is not a vain exercise. How does a person(man /woman, boss, friend) bring you coffee? Do they ask you how you like it? Do they make it how they like it or how you like it? If it’s a significant other, do they bring it to you in bed? Or make you do it every time? You can ask yourself these questions the next time you decide on some significant decisions with that person. Though I have not had swoon-worthy coffee moments yet I know that I could have avoided disasters with certain people if only I had assessed them over coffee.
Coffee is good for your health too. Regular coffee consumption may reduce a person’s risk of certain liver disorders, lowering the risk of liver cancer by 40% and cirrhosis by as much as 80%. Coffee can help you burn fat and boost your metabolism(all those bulletproof coffee drinkers agree?), this is the reason why caffeine is usually the primary ingredient in most over-the-counter diet supplements. While drinking coffee will not make you lose weight, it can help raise the metabolic rate and boost your athletic performance. Coffee can lower your risk of diabetes as per research has found that having 3-4 cups of coffee a day is correlated with a 25% lower risk in type II diabetes. Coffee is also associated with a lower risk of Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. As you age, coffee can slow down “the onset of neurodegenerative disease,” and can lower your risk of Alzheimer’s by up to 60%, and Parkinson’s of 32-60%!
Coffee is an all-around performance booster both physically, mentally, and emotionally. Best of all, it’s legal. However, don’t over it otherwise the only thing that is assured is insomnia.
I am sorry that my tribute to you has to be on your death.It’s indeed unfortunate that me like many others on social media have been appreciating your contribution only on hearing that you took your life.
It is heartbreaking that a talented handsome actor like you felt unheard, so much unlike the privilege actors are supposed to have.
So this post is to remind myself to judge little and love more.
This is to remind me that a talented actor who considered himself an engineer succumbed to depression nonetheless.
This is to remind myself that no matter how popular or loved l might think people are,they are still alone and sometimes just need a patient ear.
This is to remind me and those reading this to never trivialize other people’s pain for you never know what direction you are pushing that person towards.
I am sorry and I hope you find your peace wherever you are. Thank you for reminding us to be more humane and be there for each other now more than ever.
For you mattered. For every life matters. For Mental health matters.
A hopeless romantic lingers inside me (every cynical millennial). We want to share our loneliness with someone we cherish even if a barrage of disappointing dates, faces and unfulfilling relationships has battered the heart we wear on our sleeves. This isn’t exactly surprising.
We hand-pick our outfits, curate our social media, and mix the soundtrack to our lives. We create an identity, an idealized image into the world. It’s no surprise we’ve transferred this mindset to our romantic relationships. Yes, it’s difficult to date that ridiculously chiseled Goon-Yoo-type when you sit on the couch all day daydreaming (about him). Difficult yes but not impossible if you put in the work.(This is my Blog so I will take the liberty to be ridiculously optimistic because HEY! heart wants what it wants).Period.
I am searching for a special someone whose every look, dimple, freckle, and smile triggers a jolt that reverberates across my chest. I don’t know about you but I am lost and confused. Sometimes, it can be very frustrating. Maybe it’s bad timing or incompatibility or zero chemistry or a bad hair day; some things are beyond your control. But if we drift through life assuming everyone who rejects us is inherently an asshole; we better be a sociopath or Deepika Padukone.
Dating a person, you admire requires you to hold yourself to a high standard, a better version of yourself.
But we tend to get so wrapped up in what we want, we lose sight of how to attain it. If we were honestly assessing ourselves, perhaps we’d take a moment to consider: “If the ‘perfect’ person were really perfect, they could date whoever they wanted. Why would they choose us?” Your definition of “perfect” is entirely subjective. It’s based on your current mental and emotional state, your goals and ambitions, personality and values, past experiences, and an endless entanglement of subconscious issues and fetishes far too nuanced to generalize. But I’ve found that, more often than not, people tend to hold dating prospects to unreasonable standards they don’t hold themselves to.
The cold, cruel truth about love is people want to be with others they deem to be of equal or higher caliber than themselves. It’s a capitalist world and market value have its way of sifting the choosers from the beggars. Newton’s third law of physics states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction,” so if you’re evaluating people on superficial qualities, the ones you’ve pulled into your orbit are probably measuring you by the same barometer.
A successful (Love) life begins by working on yourself. People are generally attracted to counterparts who share similar priorities and philosophies. Want to date someone who’s fun and adventurous? Take up some new hobbies. Want to date someone with career ambitions? Pursue a job that fits your passions. Want to date someone who’s smart? Broaden your intellectual interests. At the very least, it’ll make you a more intriguing person with some added layers of depth, and you’ll have something to talk about other than the weather or whatever Mostly Sane posted today.
This isn’t meant as an insult. It’s a plea for reflection. Self-love is a good thing, but self-awareness is more important. The more you improve, the more your prospects improve atleast that’s what I am telling myself.
When you become more certain about your journey, you’re more likely to find someone who wants to hop along for the ride.
The emotional bond is what makes you better at language learning – Danijela Trenkic
I have been obsessing over Korea this Quarantine and that is what is motivating me to learn Korean. Though I have always loved Language Learning and have taken various Languages as I grew up ,I have realized Love is the best reason to learn a New Language. I studied Sanskrit in 10th Standard, took up German in 11th standard,Pali as a Upsc Optional and have been flirting with Japanese and German with my ever changing Crushes. So if love is making me learn new language,so be it.
I think Learning languages is a big part of success, people who don’t enjoy learning languages are less likely to be successful. You can’t force yourself to do something that involves your emotions, involves a commitment to sort of imitating another language and culture and getting outside of the comfort of your language, one that you’re used to and able to express yourself. You’re forcing yourself out of that and you have to enjoy the process or you won’t do it. So why do I enjoy it?
I enjoy languages because of the discovery. I enjoy languages because I know that it’s an exercise in discovery, but also it leads you to these other things. Friends that I’ll be able to make, I’ll be able to have dinner conversations in Seoul when we visit Korea, so there’s all of this positive anticipation.
There are moments in life when we have a pleasant evening with friends, but that’s all you get is that evening then it’s gone. Now you have the memory maybe. Moments of enjoyment can be fleeting in life, but with language learning it’s sort of like you get a triple punch. You get the enjoyment of the activity, at least it is for me, you get the discovery of the language and then you get all of the things that that’s going to lead to. So it’s an investment in future enjoyment in a way that a wonderful meal and a nice bottle of wine is an investment in the enjoyment of that evening and perhaps the memory of it, but you aren’t necessarily investing in many, many good things to come.
So that’s my view. I do enjoy learning languages. I’m not tired of it. If I get tired of language A I move to language B. Whatever I have put into a language, however little I have achieved in the language, it’s still been a positive experience, a positive discovery and it’s also something that I can go back to.
First things first, I empathize with you for being locked up in your homes and not getting your daily dose of fresh air and fresh people. I can understand how difficult it is for you and I want to take this opportunity to let you know how difficult it will get for us, the introverts once this lockdown is over. in the hope that you would extend us the same understanding
As an introvert, I would probably rather listen than talk most of the time. We are adept at building deep and lasting relationships. We’re trusted, accountable, and a core contributor. People look to us for our Zen like demeanour. However, we’re not a schmoozers and that really sucks in a social setup. We value your space and quiet time. Regardless, you have distinct advantages that enable you to understand people better but finding your tribe is really difficult. Atleast in my experience.
On the flip side we are naïve to the social art of retorts. Certain overtly well-meaning queries that desperately try to put us down are never ok! And while we should hone some standard retorts it doesn’t hurt to set certain healthy boundaries with such
So here’s everything that you should never ask an introvert (actually any person that you want to impress) on their face because it is crass and downright rude to say the least. I will never admit off course that It’s basically how to talk to me but in third person
Don’t talk to them if you want to lie. They can sense your energy even if they might suck at understanding your body language. So please don’t try.
Save your veiled relationship status questions for someone else. If we trusted you enough, you would know without asking and if you still don’t know then we want it that way.
Respect our No. You should actually respect any living things No. Even that cat who doesn’t want to play just because you are in the mood for it
Please respect our “me time”. That’s when we gather energy to deal with the big bad world and it’s essential for out sanity
If you can’t talk anything good to us, then please don’t talk
We are told that we are good listeners. And we are good at keeping secrets too. So if you make friends with us you have also earned yourself a counselor, patient listener, someone who can comfort you with good food and good stories and overall a great company. But don’t abuse our good intent and expect us to be available all the time.
Don’t take it personally if we refuse your invite. It’s not always about you, you see. Afterall the only company that we seek is ourselves so please don’t take us refusing your invites/requests as us rejecting our relationship with you.
How much we are earning unless off course you are in HR.
That’s all that I could think of today but I would like to revisit this topic if and when I have something to add to it. Until then much Love, peace and deeper understanding of ourselves and that of others.
The grownup Pi Patel in the Life of Pi lamented about his heartbreak when the tiger Richard Parker left him on the coast of Mexico without saying goodbye.
“I was weeping because Richard Parker had left me so unceremoniously. What a terrible thing it is to botch a farewell…it’s important in life to conclude things properly. Only then can you let go. Otherwise you are left with words you should have said but never did, and your heart is heavy with remorse”
I am moved to tears while seeing this Movie today knowing that Irrfan has left us as unceremoniously as Richard Parker left Pi, the characters Irrfan Khan plays in the movie. I have never met him but I think I knew him from all the characters he has played and that familiarity is enough to move the thousands that are pouring their heart on Twitter and other social medias. And I wonder if animals have this ability where you grieve a death in your species though they are not a part of their “herd”. Do they feel a sense of loss like we do?
There have been many deaths across the world and we all were moved beyond words by them. We all have lost something, something which will not come back. I do not want to leave you all pessimistic and would like to share the hope which Sutapa Sikdar, Irrfan’s widow has shared with the world and may it restore your faith in all beautiful things that life has to offer, like love , like humanity and everything in between.