Deal with Compassion Fatigue- NOW!

Do you find yourselves avoiding certain conversations and people? Because their work puts them in situations where they commonly see or hear about ongoing and sometimes unspeakable suffering, it is not unusual to see some of our most skilled, caring, and compassionate “helpers” fall victim to compassion fatigue.

Corona times have forced us not only to look at our physical well being but also emotional well being and Compassion is no exception. Compassion fatigue is considered to be the result of working directly with victims of disasters, trauma, or illness, especially in the health care industry. Individuals working in other helping professions are also at risk for experiencing compassion fatigue but I personally feel that thanks to the stressful times that we live in , no one is an exception.

Signs of compassion fatigue include:

  • Feeling burdened by the suffering of others
  • Blaming others for their suffering
  • Isolating yourself
  • Loss of pleasure in life
  • Difficulty in concentrating
  • Insomnia
  • Physical and mental fatigue
  • Bottling up your emotions
  • Increased nightmares
  • Feelings of hopelessness or powerlessness
  • Frequent complaining about your work or your life
  • Overeating
  • Excessive use of drugs or alcohol
  • Poor self-care
  • Beginning to receive a lot of complaints about your work or attitude
  • Denial

So now without rambling on theory, let me jot down what I think might help anyone deal with compassion fatigue.

  • Watch something light-hearted like cartoons or a romance comedy. Stay away from tear jerkers.
  • Eat sumptuous food if gaining weight is not a concern 😛
  • Try to comes to terms with the fact that pain and suffering are realities of life over which we have little or no control.
  • Be grateful for what is good in your life and in the world.
  • Try to find some meaning in the suffering you see.
  • If you must blame something, blame the situation, not the person.
  • Show compassion to yourself by being kind, soothing, and comforting to yourself.
  • Enhance your awareness with education.
  • Accept where you are on your path at all times.
  • Exchange information and feelings with people who can validate you.
  • Clarify your personal boundaries—what works for you and what doesn’t.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Express what you need verbally.
  • Tell others what you need in order to feel good .
  • Take positive action to change your environment.

Compassion fatigue or not, I hope this helps 🙂

Psychocybernetics: The way you act is a result of the mental image you create of yourself.

Most important part of transformation is Mental

Whether you like it or not you’ve created your own self-image of who you are. Every success, failure, and experience you’ve had has played a role in the creation of this mental illustration.

Life events, whether traumatic or wonderful, lead us to create the mental blueprint of ourselves. This principle is important to know because who you believe yourself to determine how you act every day. For example, if you’ve had struggles with math your whole life, you may tell yourself that you’re bad at math, that it’s just who you are. It’s the thought of being awful at arithmetic that makes you continue to struggle. Maybe instead of having a hard time with numbers, you think that people judge you for the way you look or act, which causes you to push people away. Unfortunately, this perception of yourself and how others view you is making you shut down.

“How we explain life events to ourselves determines how they will affect us.

Between every situation we experience and how we feel about it is a space. Within that space, we decide what to think the circumstance means, whether good or bad. We have to improve what we think to change how we feel in any situation we encounter. When we upgrade our perception of ourselves and the world around us, we can improve the way we act.

Most definitely!