Do you find yourselves avoiding certain conversations and people? Because their work puts them in situations where they commonly see or hear about ongoing and sometimes unspeakable suffering, it is not unusual to see some of our most skilled, caring, and compassionate “helpers” fall victim to compassion fatigue.
Corona times have forced us not only to look at our physical well being but also emotional well being and Compassion is no exception. Compassion fatigue is considered to be the result of working directly with victims of disasters, trauma, or illness, especially in the health care industry. Individuals working in other helping professions are also at risk for experiencing compassion fatigue but I personally feel that thanks to the stressful times that we live in , no one is an exception.
Signs of compassion fatigue include:
Feeling burdened by the suffering of others
Blaming others for their suffering
Loss of pleasure in life
Difficulty in concentrating
Physical and mental fatigue
Bottling up your emotions
Feelings of hopelessness or powerlessness
Frequent complaining about your work or your life
Excessive use of drugs or alcohol
Beginning to receive a lot of complaints about your work or attitude
So now without rambling on theory, let me jot down what I think might help anyone deal with compassion fatigue.
Watch something light-hearted like cartoons or a romance comedy. Stay away from tear jerkers.
Eat sumptuous food if gaining weight is not a concern 😛
Try to comes to terms with the fact that pain and suffering are realities of life over which we have little or no control.
Be grateful for what is good in your life and in the world.
Try to find some meaning in the suffering you see.
If you must blame something, blame the situation, not the person.
Show compassion to yourself by being kind, soothing, and comforting to yourself.
Enhance your awareness with education.
Accept where you are on your path at all times.
Exchange information and feelings with people who can validate you.
Clarify your personal boundaries—what works for you and what doesn’t.
The traditional view of achievement, like the traditional view of depression, needs overhauling. Our workplaces and our home operate on the conventional assumption that success results from a combination of talent and desire.
When failure occurs, it is because either talent or desire is missing. But failure also can occur when talent and desire are present in abundance but optimism is missing.
What if the great majority of depressions are much simpler than the biological psychiatrists and the psychoanalysts believe?
1. What if depression is not something you are motivated to bring upon yourself but something that just descends upon you? 2. What if depression is not an illness but a severe low’ mood? 3. What if you are not a prisoner of past conflicts in the way you react? 4. What if depression is in fact set off by present troubles? 5. What if you are not a prisoner of your genes or your brain chemistry, either? 6. What if depression arises from mistaken inferences ‘we make from two Ways of Looking at Life, the tragedies and setbacks we all experience over the course of a life? 7.What if depression occurs merely when we harbor pessimistic beliefs about the causes of our setbacks? 8. What if we can unlearn pessimism and acquire the skills of looking at setbacks optimistically?
Also what if the traditional view of the components of success is wrong? 1. What if there is a third factor-optimism or pessimis~that matters as much as talent or desire? 2. What if you can have all the talent and desire necessary-yet, if you are a pessimist, still fail? 3.What if optimists do better at school, at work, and on the playing field? 4.What if optimism is a learned skill, one that can be permanently acquired? 5.What if we can instill this skill in our children?
I am sorry that my tribute to you has to be on your death.It’s indeed unfortunate that me like many others on social media have been appreciating your contribution only on hearing that you took your life.
It is heartbreaking that a talented handsome actor like you felt unheard, so much unlike the privilege actors are supposed to have.
So this post is to remind myself to judge little and love more.
This is to remind me that a talented actor who considered himself an engineer succumbed to depression nonetheless.
This is to remind myself that no matter how popular or loved l might think people are,they are still alone and sometimes just need a patient ear.
This is to remind me and those reading this to never trivialize other people’s pain for you never know what direction you are pushing that person towards.
I am sorry and I hope you find your peace wherever you are. Thank you for reminding us to be more humane and be there for each other now more than ever.
For you mattered. For every life matters. For Mental health matters.